Well, I just turned 39 years old. That’s slightly horrifying. I suppose it would be better if I was in a different place in my life. But being 39 and single is HARD.
I’ve never been married and don’t have kids. Married people tell me that I’m lucky because I can sleep in on weekends, do whatever I want, and don’t have to compromise. The reality is far different.
I’ve had several relationships over the years, and one 3-year relationship that ended when he proposed to me. He was a nice, decent man (although he had issues in abundance), but we brought out the worst in each other. I knew it and I think he knew it. But we both LIKED each other too much to admit the obvious. I’m just glad I had the strength to say “no.” It helped that I wouldn’t let him show me the ring – who can resist diamonds?
Anyway, spending 3 years with someone in your thirties does eat up time.
At the moment, I’m on both eHarmony and Match.com. I’ve had a few dates from each (more on that later), but nobody I’ve clicked with. Some have personalities I’ll call “challenging,” other guys have been flat-out weird, and a couple have been downright criminal (with arrest records and everything). But there’s always more matches, so here’s hoping.
Aside from online dating, as I hit my 39th year, I’m willing to be more open and creative. And I’m totally open to suggestions from well-meaning people. At best, I meet the guy. At worst, I get awesome stories I can delight and shock friends with. We’ll see…